It is a common phrase that the tree is as strong as its roots. Character and persona are your roots. People live their entire life without really knowing who they truly are. But how can you expect to fully succeed in life as long as you do not understand who you are, what your fears are, and what holds you back? Understanding and accepting who you are, is the key to success.
At Seamedu all we strive for is for our students to be successful in life, not just professionally but also personally. To help our students understand and overcome their fears, we arranged for a Selfie-Kohama workshop.
The word ‘Selfie’ was chosen not only because our students who are part of the GenX could relate to it, but also because it directly refers to one’s own personality. A selfie is taken in the way we want the world to perceive us. We do not take a selfie when we are angry or upset. Similarly, we should also be conscious about how we portray our attitude and behaviour in the real world and behave in the way we want the world to perceive us.
The workshop was conducted to bring about self-awareness among the students which would help them communicate better and break certain barriers which are often faced while interacting.
The speaker of the workshop was Prof. Pallavi Kaskade who has 11 years of experience in counselling people where she helps people to overcome their fears. She started off with the basic introduction, though she had a twist. Our students had to describe themselves but not in the usual norm. They had to make use of just one adjective which describes them perfectly. This shows how much a person actually knows themselves. The students faced quite a dilemma while completing this task. Although some students did find it difficult to describe themselves, many of our students managed to impress Prof. Pallavi.
To further help the students analyze themselves, they were given a list of adjectives from which they had to mark just twelve that described them. Even though this was easier to execute compared to the earlier task, quite a few students struggled here as well. This exercise was really an eye-opener for most of our students.
Our personality is not just made up of what we think of ourselves. It is also related to what we think of others and how others perceive us. To further elaborate this point, Prof. Pallavi, selected three representatives from the students. All the remaining students were asked to describe these representatives with adjectives. It was quite a joyful experience knowing what the others thought of each other.
Majority of our personality is based on conditioning. What we feel during different conditions, the choices we make and the decisions we take when under pressure is the time when our true traits are shown. Prof. Pallavi gave the students four personality traits, “I am ok, you are ok,” “I am not ok, you are ok,” “I am ok, you are not ok,” “I am not ok, you are not ok.” Later she asked the students to change these traits in such a way that all the students fall under the “I am ok, you are ok” scenario. This helped establish a sense of positivity and increased the confidence in the students so that they could face the difficulties in life with a strong and positive approach. This also helped to eliminate hatred and depression from the student’s minds.
Prof. Pallavi then went on to explain how we are shaped by the labels and tags that the society puts on us and how we keep changing ourselves to match the expectation of the society. When we try to function according the society, we start to lose ourselves and drown in the sea of complexities. This not only majorly affects our mental health, but our physical health as well.
We at Seamedu believe in alternate and better ways of teaching, and Prof. Pallavi follows the method as well. Movies are really influential on today’s generation. Most of the trends, norms and behavioral attributes are directly or indirectly related to movies. So, what better way than to teach using movies! Prof. Pallavi showed the students bits from movies like ‘Taalash’ and ‘3 Idiots’ to give them a better understanding of how inputs from others can sometimes help us to understand ourselves better.
After this she went on to explain to the students about the 3C’s which are, Convenience, Control and Commitment and the 3S’s which stand for Stability, Security and Settlement. She explained the important of all these elements and how at some point of time they exhibit in our attitude.
We believe that over-all development is needed to succeed in life. We also believe that one should always be true to themselves and break free from the norms of the society. In the words of Prof. Pallavi Kaskade, ‘Know the truth and live the truth. Only then we can be happy with ourselves and those surrounding us.’